Okay so I thought I was done with the Edwards but I saw the interview with Elizabeth and Oprah on yesterday. Where do I start???? I think perhaps the book and the interview is a way for Elizabeth to express her hurt and angry. Long after she is gone her voice will be heard through both. Certainly she said some things that all women can identify with if you have ever been cheated on. One of the things she said that is probably true for anyone who has been betrayed is that you don't remain the same woman. You become a different woman and can never be the woman you were before this happened.
Elizabeth found it very difficult to answer the question if she still loves John. She circled the barn and the cover wagons before she said yes. She said that it was "complicated". She couldn't answer that question because there are so many other feelings that are more heart felt than love--- hurt, betrayed, anger, hate, ashamed, confused, and the list goes on. If love finds it way to the list it is buried under all of the other feelings. At no time does a woman sit down and makes how much she loves her husband the main focus once she has been betrayed. The question becomes not if she loves him but if she is in love with him. There is a difference. I suspect she loves him but not in love with him.
Here is where the interview got a little crazy. She said when he made the confession he told her it was only one time-- a one night stand. Well he lied. No surprise there. When Oprah asked if she thinks that this was the only time it happened with this one woman and no one else, Elizabeth said she honestly believes that this has never happened before. Elizabeth, Elizabeth, Elizabeth, let me be the one to tell you. This is not the only time this has happened. If it had been, he would have told you the entire truth the first time. You are 60 years old. You should know better.
Then Elizabeth said that John is good man who did a really bad thing and if it were not for this one thing they would have a perfect marriage. Perhaps this "one thing" showed that it isn't a perfect marriage. He didn't only cheat but lied about it. That makes two things.
Another thing she said was that the fact that John may be the father of this woman's baby has nothing to do with her. Well that is where you are wrong. Once this is hashed out what will John do? Will he turn his back on the child so that the media can once again show just what a lowlife he is or will he make visits and provide for the child? You see Elizabeth every time that he is with the mother and that baby that is time away from you and your children. So you see it will involve you. John can't be in two places at the same time.
Now it is John's turn: Oprah asked John if he thought Elizabeth would leave him. His answer was he didn't know. Here is the real answer. He didn't think she would leave. Had he though that he would have behaved differently. I did not hear John say to his wife right then and there how sorry he was and that he wishes a million times he had not been involved with this woman and send a message to other woman that she was a mistake from the beginning and that he hopes he never has to see her again. I just didn't hear that. Don't tell me that he has said this before. He needs to say it and keep saying it until Elizabeth not only hears but feels it. I say right now she does not feel this. If she did we wouldn't be reading her book.
Now with all of this said and done ---John you will have to live with knowing how bad you have hurt a dying wife.
